The left picture is what society makes us think we should look like, the right picture on the other hand... wasn't of a celebrity. It wasn't of a supermodel. It was of a woman sitting in her underwear with a smile on her face and a belly that looks...wait for it...normal. There is something seriously wrong with the expectations of society. But why is it that everyone falls into their trap so easily? It has even been proven that almost EVERY picture that is every posted in any magazine, on a any billboard, or anywhere on the internet, is doctored. It is unreal what people can do with a photo. They can literally turn a man into a woman with the editing programs out there. If you think the world has always been like this, you're sorely mistaken.Over time, self image have gradually changed.... Until recently, It has DRASTICALLY changed. If you were to be 400 lbs 5 centuries ago, everyone would respect you! It was a sign that you were wealthy and healthy because you could afford to eat, and obviously eat as much as you wanted. Now days, If you are even 10 lbs overweight, the media considers you obese. What is wrong with this picture? I'll tell you. It's the fact that people fall into these beliefs and will seriously kill themselves to look like the model in the left. There is no way that is a healthy body. In fact, most normal people ARE in the right weight range for they height and size! But why would the media focus on those people? Because then that would make everyone look normal and they wouldn't make any money off of the "image-improving" industries. You will never EVER be happy worrying everyday about every single calorie you intake, and weighing yourself every morning and night to see if you have lost weight. Not only will trying to get to the point of "skinny", make you miserable, but it will never be enough. You have done so much to be so tiny, where do you draw the line? For so long you have been focusing on losing more and more weight that, whether you admit it or not, you have literally developed a disorder. Always thinking you are still too big it gets to a point that you don't stop... Your body is never good enough for you. So my point is... Why would you even put yourself through that to begin with? What the media doesn't tell you is that every person you see out there that you think is "beautiful" is also insanely unhealthy, often on the verge of death... All the media pushes on people is that super skinny arms and legs, tight skin, small butt, inverted stomach, raised cheekbones, and that wearing heels with your swimsuit to the beach is beautiful and sexy...
So here's the deal. Everyone has got to stop comparing themselves to what the media says is beautiful and let go of the image they have put in your minds of what is beautiful, and focus on true, attainable beauty. Healthy is beautiful. Happy is beautiful. Confidence is beautiful. Have it all together, and you are set! You will officially be the woman that all those models actually yearn to be like. We are told our whole lives that the inner beauty is all that really matters. Why can't we just accept it though? Because that is not what society focuses on and everyone wants to conform to what society says they should. So what do we do? Forget the media! If you see some skinny model on a runway and you start to feel down about not looking like her, just think to yourself, "Good for her! I wish her well." And remind yourself that you have true happiness that is too good for the media to try to portray. Not only can we not keep up with the media, but if we tried, we would go completely broke and yet.... Never even be close! So what is the point in even trying to keep up? And if you have completely different insecurities like not being able impress a man, let's be real here. Girl's only focus on impressing other girls. It's a sickness, really! But here is a secret... Men are a lot less shallow than we give them credit for! Crazy, I know! But true. They would never in a million years admit it, because then they would officially have their man-card revoked. THE sexiest thing to a man is confidence. No matter what size you are or how you look, to a man; No confidence, no deal. You will just turn into a one time dealio, and he will have no incentive to call you again. So forget impressing other stupid women! I promise, they aren't looking at you. They are so wound up in themselves they don't even think to give you a second look! No reason to beat yourself up then, right? Yes. So stop. Just LIVE YOUR LIFE! Live it how you think it should be lived, no how others tell you it should be lived. Once you give up your insecurities about yourself, you will be 1,000,000x happier and you will even find... You are more attractive to everyone! People are attracted to confidence, no matter what you look like. You will get more attention from the right people! Because they will love you for YOU and not how you look. Focusing on looks, you attract the complete opposite crowd! The people that only judge you by how you look. And even if you get in the 'circle' you always dreamed of, you will never be happy! For the rest of your life, everything will be a competition. And that is no way to live. Live your life to the fullest! It starts with getting over your poor self-image, and painting yourself a new one! You will have no regrets for changing your life.
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